"Why" by Rascal Flats

Krystal found this song and it reminds us so much of Jeff.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oXJquRA582s&feature=related

"Why"

You must have been in a
Place so dark
You couldn't feel the light
Reachin' for you through
That stormy cloud
Now here we are
Gathered in our little hometown
This can't be the way
You meant to draw a crowd

[Chorus]
Oh why, that's what I keep asking
Was there anything I could've
Said or done
Oh, I had no clue you were
Masking
A troubled soul, God only knows
What went wrong and why
You would leave the stage
In the middle of a song

Now in my mind I'll keep you frozen
As a seventeen-year-old
Rounding third to score the
Winning run
You always played with passion
No matter what the game
When you took the stage
You'd shine just like the sun

[Chorus]
Oh why, that's what I keep asking
Was there anything I could've
Said or done
Oh, I had no clue you were
Masking
A troubled soul, God only knows
What went wrong and why
You would leave the stage
In the middle of a song

Now the oak trees are swaying
In the early autumn breeze
A golden sun is shining on my face
Through tangled thoughts
I hear a mockingbird sing
This old world really ain't that
Bad of a place

Oh why, there's no comprehending
And who am I to try to
Judge or explain
Oh, but I do have one
Burning question
Who told you life wasn't
Worth the fight
They were wrong, they lied
Now you're gone and we cry
'Cause it's not like you to
Walk away
In the middle of a song

Your beautiful song
Your absolutely beautiful song

Beautiful Rose's!!

Here are some of the roses that were on Jeff's casket before I dried them, I thought they were so beautiful! I wanted to incorporate these pictures with the shadow box's but it didn't work out, so here they are to look at and enjoy!

The love we have for Jeff!

I'm not sure how to put into words how I feel but I'll do my best... I didn't have the opportunity to sincerely tell Jeff how I felt about him before he passed away and I hope Jeff and his family knows and understands how much he meant to Cary and I. He wasn't just a best friend but it was much deeper than that, the deep love that we have for Jeff is so strong and so deep that I can't put it into words the feelings I feel for him. I truly felt like I lost a brother in-law and Cary lost a brother, but those feelings don't change even though we can't call or see him, we will always love him and Jeff will always be Cary's best friend, instead of texting him or calling him to say hi we just do it a little differently, I know he can hear us and its comforting to know that!

I was pregnant at the time of his passing and didn't know it yet. When I found out that I was pregnant a week later it really made me connect with Jeff, it was healing to me and I knew that he was with my little spirit that I was caring and getting to know it, it really helped me cope with Jeff no longer being here, I would day dream about how neat it would be to have my baby born on Jeff's birthday since I was due June 3. When we found out I lost my baby on Nov. 9 (2 months later to the day) It crushed me to pieces, the spirit that I once carried was no longer with me and I felt its absence so strong, it was an empty feeling that I can't explain. I morned a baby that I had never met but yet felt so close to it at the same time. In a way I felt it disconnected me a little with Jeff and I'm morning all over again, but in two ways now. I know Jeff is up there pulling for me and everything will work out how its suppose to. I miss him and I just hope you all know how much love we have for Jeff and we always will. You guys are an amazing family and we will always love you too.

Krystal your amazing and we will always love you as well, I look up to your strength so much!!

Thanks for talking to me Leah, it was so nice to have someone understand what your going through and it helped me more than you'll ever know!!

I also want to say how grateful I am for the opportunity to make those shadow box's and poem for you all, it was one of the neatest experiences I have ever had and I loved doing it all for you! It is so special to me and I will always cherish it forever, I feel like it is a great reminder that Jeff is looking down on me and watching over all of us!
His spirit still lives and I can feel it!!!!

We love you guys!
Brooke and Cary Winget

What matters most

This made me think about Jeff and the lessons we are all learning more succinctly as a result of his passing.
Mimi Theresia Smolevitz

"Despite the changes which come into our lives and with gratitude in our
hearts, may we fill our days—as much as we can—with those things which
matter most. May we cherish those we hold dear and express our love to them
in word and in deed."

Thoughts on Death and Dying

My mom sent me these quotes, thought they were pretty good.

Sympathy Quotes about Death

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
- From a headstone in Ireland

Life and death are one thread, the same line viewed from different sides.
- Lao Tzu

It is not death or pain that is to be dreaded, but the fear of pain or death.
- Epictetus

There is no death, only a change of worlds.
- Chief Seattle

It is foolish and wrong to mourn the men who died. Rather we should thank God that such men lived.
George S. Patton

My heart bleeds at the death of every one of our gallant men.
- Robert E. Lee

Do not mourn the dead, but comfort the living.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Those we love don't go away,
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear.
- Anonymous

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart,
and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Kahlil Gibran

A man's dying is more his survivor's affair than his own.
Thomas Mann

Dying is a wild night and a new road.
Emily Dickinson

I Did Not Die
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn's rain,
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
- Anonymous

Treat the earth well.
It was not given to you by your parents,
it was loaned to you by your children.
We do not inherit the Earth from our Ancestors,
we borrow it from our Children.
- Ancient Indian Proverb

Humankind has not woven the web of life.
We are but one thread within it.
Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves.
All things are bound together.
All things connect.
- Chief Seattle, 1854

What is life?
It is the flash of a firefly in the night.
It is the breath of a buffalo in the wintertime.
It is the little shadow which runs across
the grass and loses itself in the sunset.
- Crowfoot, Blackfoot warrior and orator 1830 - 1890

I give you this one thought to keep -
I am with you still - I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the sweet uplifting rush,
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft starts that shine at night.
Do not think of me as gone -
I am with you still in each new dawn.
- Traditional Native American Prayer

I cannot know the pain you feel.
I cannot share your memories or your loss.
My words of sympathy are beneath measure, yet
know that my heart reaches out with love to your heart.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

A gift never to be forgotten

We got the sweetest gift from Brooke and Cary Winget. They were both so close to Jeff. Cary is like a brother to all of us and then when he married Brooke, she became like a sister. Brooke wanted to do something special for those in the family she knew well. She was inspired to take a few of the roses off of Jeff's casket at the cemetery. What she did with them - we will treasure forever. She carefully dried the flowers and then wrote the following poem to go along with it. Truly a gift we will never forget! And a way to remember Jeff each day.


Remembrance

These roses are very special
After the funeral they were left,
Now they lay in a frame together
They will forever remind us of our Jeff.

There are so many moments to remember
Sweet memories that we've all had,
But to see him lying so peaceful
These roses make it not so sad.

These roses represent his life
His generosity and his big heart,
And we'll never forget those bear hugs
Even though for now we're apart.

We will always have these roses
They will be our remembrance of him,
They're the ones that laid with him laid that day
May they last 'til we see him again.

Ella's Baby Blessing. Jeff, were you there?

Ella sure enjoyed telling all sorts of stories to Aunt Krystal at her blessing. We are sure if we could understand what she was saying that she was surely telling us Jeff was there and that he loves us!

We missed Jeff in this photo but everyone had a strong feeling like he was there! We just couldn't see him.

Comments from People on Russon Bros and SL Trib sites

September 24, 2009
To Ryan and family, I was so sad to hear about your brother, although I didn't know him very well I do remember how funny he was and how nice he always was to me. I wish I would have found out in time to make it to the services but I just wanted to let you know that you're in our prayers and your friends are always here for you if you need us.
~
Chris Forsey,
Draper, Utah


September 21, 2009
Dear Krystal,

We just wanted to let you know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. We are so sorry for your loss.

Love,
Matt, Kim, Milo & Eli Mangel
Kaysville, Utah


September 15, 2009
Jeffy I am surely going to miss your big smile and fun personality. You always made me smile when I was around. I will never forget you. To the Spencer/Johnson family. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you all at this difficult time.

Jamie Huntsman,
Bountiful, Utah


September 15, 2009
Krystal,

I am so sorry to find out about Jeff's passing. I wish I had found out soon enough to attend his funeral. I feel the world has lost some of its sunshine. My heart aches for you and for the Spencers. I have always really admired Jeff's wonderful spirit. I am also glad that recently I was able to get reacquainted with Jeff while we were in the same singles ward for a little while. I remember his humorous and tasteful selection of the movie Condorman for one of our successful activities, and I also was honored to serve with Jeff as his home teaching companion for about six months.

May the Lord bless you.
Paul Callister,
Bountiful, Utah


September 14, 2009
To Ryan and the Spencer Family,
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time.
Sincerely,
Sara Callister,
Bountiful, Utah


September 14, 2009
Dear Spencer Family,
Please know of our love and prayers during this difficult time. I have always been impressed with the love and peace I have felt in your home, your boys have always been true gentlemen.

Love, Jessica Lyon Wright and family


September 14, 2009
Our loving support is with you at this time. I wish we were in town to be there for you in person. You are in our prayers.
Jordan Wilcox,
Naples, Florida


September 14, 2009
I love your family and am heartbroken for you. Jeff was such a funny guy! He was the Sunday School teacher for our class after he returned home from his mission, and I don't think I learned more from any other person--he can command attention! I still use quotes that I stole from him during that time (e.g. "I submit unto you that you are correct!") His sense of humor and contagious personality will be very missed. I am fortunate to have been able to know him and count myself blessed to know the Spencer family!
Natalie Brewster Campbell,
Aurora, Colorado


September 14, 2009
Krystal, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My heart goes out to you. I know you will be watched over. You are a very strong and spiritual girl. My prayers are wtih you. Please don't hesitate to call if you need to. I love you dearly!!

To Jeff's family I am also sorry for your loss. Jeff had to be a very special person to win Krystal's heart.

My prayers are with you all.
Susan Cleaver,
West Bountiful, Utah


September 14, 2009
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. What a sad day this is.
Angie Creer Danowski,
Woods Cross, Utah
September 14, 2009


I am so sorry for your loss. I have many fond memories of the Jeff. I hope you find comfort at this time.
Allen Johnston


September 14, 2009
What an amazing smile Jeff has. That will be in my heart forever. Krystal, I knew Jeff many, many years ago in Junior High School. I am so sorry for the great loss of a wonderful man. My heart aches for you and family.
Brandy Reynolds Heiner,
Ogden, Utah


September 14, 2009
Dear Krystal,
My heart is full right now. Our thoughts are with you at this time, and you are in our prayers. May you always have the wonderful memories available to your mind. May you always have the comfort you need to get through this trial. When you married I could tell that you are the love of Jeff's life. It shined in his eyes and whole self. May Guardian Angels attend you Krystal. I love you,
Love,
Chariti,Craig,Marah,Melanie,Emma,
Samantha,and Noel SMITH....


September 14, 2009
Jeff, you were such a great example to me throughout my life. I always knew I had a great friend in Jeff Spencer. My memories are filled with your amazing personality. I'm grateful that I had a chance to know you so well. I miss you buddy. Thank you also for forcing me on a blind date with a girl that later became my wife!
Dave & Emmy Gourley,
Kaysville, Utah


September 14, 2009
Krystal,
Charmaine and I are so sorry to learn of your loss. You and your family have been through so much the last couple of years.
Our thought and prayers are with you as you face this and the healing that will come.
The Folland's


September 14, 2009
Jeff, there wasn't a room you could not brighten, there wasn't a heart you did not touch, and there were never words that describe how much we love you. You will always be in our hearts. Love Brandon and Brooke Bunker.


September 13, 2009
My good thoughts, memories & heart for you dear friend, thanks a million for all the kindness you showed me, I will pray for you forever, our father GOD will heal your soul and keep you happy "MY GOOD MAN"
Pedro


September 13, 2009
Dear Spencers,
We were so sad to hear of your tremendous loss! I will always remember Jeff as a a very fun loving and caring teacher! He was my sunday school teacher about 14 years ago. He was also a great insurance agent and was always very helpful and happy to help us! I am so sorry for your loss; I have been thinking about you and your family all day. You are in my prayers. Love, Tonee Smoot and Brennan Smoot
Tonee & Brennan Smoot,
Farmington, Utah


September 13, 2009
Krystal,
My heart goes out to you!! I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband....I can only imagine the pain of loosing a loved one...I know that the love of our Savior will comfort you through these trying times..I love you Krystal....Danette Brown

Jeremy and Leah
I also am sorry for the loss of your brother...I know he was dearly loved by all. I love you guys....Danette Brown


September 13, 2009
Krystal,
You know how much we love you and Jeff. You also know I am here for you. My heart is with you tonight and tomorrow.
Please do not forget the Savior at this time. He may be the only thing that can bring you comfort right now.
I'll never forget Jeff and the smiles he brought to my face time and time again. His generosity was that of a true saint. Thanks to you and Jeff for the best birthday EVER! I'll never forget it.

LOVE YOU SO MUCH!
Heidi and Brandon Leib


September 13, 2009
Krystal,
My heart is broken for you. Please know that I love you so much and I know you will get through this. You are such a spiritual person and ever since Junior high you have proved how strong you are. Remember the song "Whatever it takes"....and know I love you.
To the Spencer family, I am so sorry for your loss as well, I knew Jeff was a lucky guy to get Krystal, but I also know Krystal was a lucky girl to have had Jeff.
Liz Hymas,
Imperial, California


September 13, 2009
I am so very very sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a loved one, and my prayers are with you!!
Linda (Crandall) Turney,
Layton, Utah


September 13, 2009
Krystal,

We are so sorry for your loss. We love you both very much and we are always here for you no matter what you need. We will miss Jeff's fun loving attitude and great sense of humor. You guys were the best friends we had and our hearts are broken for you.

Krystal, I know our Savior's love will be with you to comfort you in these times of sorrow as you face this challenge. We pray for you often and your are always in our thoughts.

To Jeff's Family, You don't really know us but we loved Jeff, he was a great friend to us. Jeff really did have the biggest heart and because of him my wife is hugger now. He was always willing to come celebrate a special occasion with us even if we didn't give Krystal and Jeff much notice.

We will always remember Jeff as an amazing friend and the perfect husband for our friend Krystal.

Jeff - We miss you and love you.

Love,
David Cromar,
Farmington, Utah


September 13, 2009
Krystal I Love you and Jeff. I am so sorry that such a loss has happened. Im glad you have such a great family and friends that care and love you.Love ya Diane Dautel

 
Our dear sweet friends, we were so broken hearted to hear of Jeff's passing. Had we have known we would have been there for you. We just heard about it today. Our hearts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. We love you and your sweet beautiful family so much and treasure the memories we have as our children grew up together and loved little Jeffrey with all our hearts. He was a special little boy and became a wonderful young man! Our son's have remained close and they too are aching for their loss and yours. No one can know the pain of losing a child or sibling. Please know that we revere and love you with all our hearts and miss those beautiful times living next door to such a special family. Love always, Linda & Larry
Larry & Linda Elkins Sep 16, 2009 Farmington, UT

Jeff was a special person with a very welcoming personality. I am so glad that I got to meet him and I am sure that he will be missed by all who knew him!
Develynne Elliott Sep 15, 2009 Mountain View, CA

Spencer family,
I am so sorry for your loss. Although we lost contact, I have always had good memories of Jeff and your family. He was a very dear friend during some very rough times in my life. He was a wonderful person.
Cassurie
Cassurie (Gines) McCairns Sep 15, 2009 North Salt Lake, UT

Scott & Family,

I am so sorry for your loss. Jeff was a great guy, always willing to help. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Sincerely,
Kellie Kendrick
Kellie Kendrick Sep 14, 2009 Ogden, UT

Dear Scott and Louise and family,
We are so sorry for your loss and we send our love to you and our prayers for you. Scott, I want you to know of my love and gratitude to you. Thank you for your good influence and the years of service to me and so many other young men in the neighborhood. May you be blessed with peace in the days and months ahead. We love you.
Shea and Amy Smoot Sep 14, 2009 Bountiful, UT

Dear Scott and Louise: What a shock to learn of Jeffrey's passing! We were not able to come out tonight and I have a class I teach on Monday at 11:00 am. We know this must be exceedingly challenging for you both. We send our love and condolences. We would like to talk with you and learn more of what happened. Please know of our love and support for you and your wonderful family. What a blessing the Gospel is at a time like this. God bless you and your choice family. love, Paul and Jean Hanks
Paul & Jean Hanks Sep 13, 2009 Salt Lake City, UT

Dear Spencers,
We were so sad to hear of your tremendous loss! I will always remember Jeff as a a very fun loving and caring teacher! He was my sunday school teacher about 14 years ago. He was also a great insurance agent and was always very helpful and happy to help us! I am so sorry for your loss; I have been thinking about you and your family all day. You are in my prayers. Love, Tonee Smoot and Brennan Smoot
Tonee & Brennan Smoot Sep 13, 2009 Farmington, UT

So sorry to hear of your loss.
Sincerest Condolences,
Jared and Michelle Buckley
Michelle Buckley Sep 13, 2009 West Point, UT

Jeff. I am going to miss you big guy! I will never forget the time you showed me how you could kick your leg and touch your toes. I though it was so hilarious and I kept asking you to do it again and you did just because it made me laugh. You will never be forgotten. I miss you buddy.
Jamie Huntsman Sep 13, 2009 North Salt Lake, UT

so sorry for your loss. our thoughts and prayers are with you all
Love the girls at Landis Aveda
Brittany Sep 12, 2009

Dear Scott, Louise, and family,
I know there really aren't words that can ease your pain very much right now...but please know my thoughts and prayers are with you at this terribly difficult time. With much love and sincere empathy, Marcia Smoot
Marcia Smoot Sep 12, 2009 Farmington, UT

Leah's dream about Jeff

It was a day where I was frustrated with Jeff and how he chose to leave this life, how his choices were making such an impact on not only his siblings, wife and parents, but also his poor innocent nephews (namely Miles). I was frustrated that he would do this to them, which made me think more and more about how "easy" Jeff got off (or so I thought). That led me to ask myself why am I even trying so hard to do what is right. Why did I try so hard to what is right and continue to struggle in this life?

That night I has a very vivid dream about him. I was sitting cross legged on the floor of a room full of people who were all standing and visiting with one another. I didn't seem to be part of anyone's conversations. I looked up a bit and saw Jeff standing talking to a person that was like a Bishop type figure. He seemed to be up a few stairs or something because I could see him very easily above the other people standing around. I watched him for a minute and then he looked at me. His eyes pierced my soul. They were so crystal blue and sparkly. Everything about his being and countenance was beautiful. He seemed to bright, so full of love, so full of PEACE. I dont remember if he had hair of what he was wearing other than he seemed to be so much brighter than anyone else who was around. Krystal was standing next to him. They were holding hands. I do remember she was wearing black. Jeff came down to my left and saw his bothers Ryan and Rick - he grabbed both of them at the same time and gave them an enormous hug while just sobbing the words, "I am soooo sorry". I remember looking around and getting a little upset because Jeremy wasn't there - and I thought that Jeff needed to apologize to Jeremy too. (in my dream). I was so touched by Jeff's sincere and very remorseful apology. After that I remember talking to Krystal (in my dreambut not much of what was said of important about that conversation.

I have prayed to know that the state in which I saw Jeff is the state in which he is in now (that of beauty, light, love and peace) and I have had a strong confirmation! I'm sorry I let my feelings of frustration get the best of me that day. It was like Jeff was showing me that he was soooooo sorry. BUT that he is peaceful and home with the Savior. I love you Jeff and I forgive you!

One month email from Krystal

To my dear family,
I just wanted to take some time to thank each of you for being here for me through all of this. Each one of you have touched my life in ways that no words would ever be able to express the love and gratitude my heart holds for you. I truly feel so blessed to have you as family.

Also, today is 10/9/09 which marks the first month since Jeff has been gone. I have been thinking alot about all that has gone on in the last month and I just felt like sharing some of the thoughts I have had. First of all, I never thought a human being could accomplish so much in 30 days. I have buried my husband, moved out of the house, sold the Jeep, dropped out of school, gone full time at work, cancelled services I didn't know we had, have had a front row seat for what it means to be a grown up, been visiting my counselor once a week but most importantly I have grown closer to my Heavenly Father. Never before has my testimony grown so quickly but yet so surely. I know that Heavenly Father loves each of us and is aware of us. Even though this experience has been tragic and heartbreaking, I have already learned so much about my self and about others. This experience is already stretching and trying me in a way that I never have been before and I am sure that one day I will be completely grateful for the positive changes that has come from this. Yes the pain is still real, the hurt is still there, and the loneliness is sometimes totally encompassing but the sun still shines, I still have the opportunity to wake up each morning, and I still have the love of family and friends. I am understanding the term of "refiners fire" a little more each day. The conclusion that I have come to is that I am going to let this experience refine me but not define me. I am becoming a different person each day but I have decided that I don't want to be looked at as the girl that "lost her husband". I want to be the girl that can come out strong and on top of this devastating adversity and stand as a witness of the many amazing blessings of the gospel. I am just trying to continue the good that our dear Jeff started and trying to continue to touch peoples lives like he did! I never in a million years ever dreamed of being where I am at age 25 but fate has decided this course for me and I am just trying to face each new adventure face forward with a smile. I have placed my life in the hands of the Lord and am just waiting to see what lies ahead for me!!!

Thanks for letting me share my thoughts and feelings with you guys! I know each of us have had different thoughts or experiences over the past month and I would love to hear what they are. If you feel comfortable to share, please feel free to share whatever you would like! I still love each of you with my whole heart and hope you guys remember that!

I love you!!!

Love,
Krystal

One month response from Jeremy

Krystal,

I hadn’t realized that it had been a month until I read your email – I must say that it hit me harder that I thought it would, but as you so aptly put “…the sun still shines”. I am amazed at your strength and the person that you are – thank you for being a part of our lives!

I have been copying the comments on the Russon Bros mortuary site as well as from the Deseret News/Salt Lake Tribune (Legacy.com) and pasted them in the attached document (they make you pay if you want them there for more than 30 days) – hopefully it brings you strength as it has for me.

God is good!!!!

Janell's experience with Jeff and the birth of Ella

to follow

Comments on the funeral

Comment by Natali Thompson:
We went to the funeral today and it was honestly one of the hardest things I have ever been to. We were lucky enough to be in with the close friends and family and to participate in the family prayer before the closing of the casket. I don't know when the last time was that I pretty much sobbed for three hours. To see his sweet wife lay on his body and cry was just too much. She talked to him telling him she would see him on the other side! When they started to close the casket-she lost it for a bit. I cannot even imagine! Oh my gosh. Then she even had the courage to speak at the funeral! All of his brothers spoke and did such a great job. I had to jot down a couple of stories they told for our own remembrance. His brother Ryan told of a story when Jeff came home one time with a really nice watch. Jeff asked Ryan if he wanted the watch and he of course said "yes". Jeff said "all you have to do is suck on my big toe for one minute and it is yours". Ryan had to think about it for a minute, but decided it was worth it-he was wearing the watch at the funeral. His little brother Rick talked about how much he always tried to be like Jeff-and ever since we have known the Spencer's we have thought that little Rick was a miniature Jeff. When he spoke it sounded so much like Jeff! Jeremy did an awesome job as well. His funny story was that when Leah was pregnant with Miles she went and got her hair cut off (he compared it to Katie Lange). She was at a big family party with all of the Spencer's and nobody had said anything to her about her new haircut. Finally she said, "doesn't anyone notice that I got my haircut?" After a few moments of silence Jeff finally said "I was always taught that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!" :) Jeff, Ryan and Rick all work with their dad Scott and they talked about how when they would be in meetings Jeff would always silence his cell phone when people called so they could leave a message, unless it was his wife Krystal-then he would say "guys...it is Krystal" and walk out of the room as they heard him yell "hi baby!". Krystal did such a good job on her talk reading things people had recently written about Jeff and then read from their joint journal about their sweet engagement story. He took her to Park City in a limo to a nice restaurant and then they went for a walk. He was holding a book (for some reason) and when he told her all of the reasons why he loved her, he got down on one knee and opened the book. It was a blank book in which he cut out a hole the same size as the ring and had it sitting in there (the book so she wouldn't be suspicious of a ring box in his pocket...hum...carrying around a rather big book in Park City on a romantic date with your girlfriend!) He had the best sense of humor! She then cried and said how much she missed him and loved him and always would. The funeral was hard-but so neat. We sure love you Jeff!
May you rest in peace! We will look forward to the big bear hug in heaven!

Jeff's Funeral

Speakers
Ryan Spencer
Rick Spencer
Jeremy Spencer
Bishop Brewster: outline to follow
Krystal Spencer

Eulogy

JEFFREY SPENCER

Jeffrey Spencer 1978 ~ 2009 BOUNTIFUL - Our beloved Jeffrey Parker Spencer passed away on Wednesday, September 9, 2009 at the age of 31.He was born May 23, 1978 in Salt Lake City, Utah, the son of Scott R. and Louise Foxley Spencer. He married the love of his life Krystal Johnson on August 8, 2008 in the Salt Lake LDS Temple. He was an active member of the LDS church and served an honorable two year mission in Fort Worth, Texas. Jeff will be remembered for his big heart. He always had a hug and kind word for everyone. He loved spending time with his sweet wife, they enjoyed jet skiing, watching movies and creating memories together. He loved golfing with his brothers and hanging out with his nephews and nieces. He was always helping other people and serving others. Family and friends were everything to him. He is survived by his wife Krystal, parents Scott and Louise Spencer, sister Rachel (Sergei Ivanov), brothers Jeremy (Leah), Ryan (Bethany), Rick (Traci). Loving nephews and nieces and so many other family members and friends who will miss him forever. A viewing will be held at Russon Brothers Bountiful Mortuary, 295 North Main, Sunday, September 13th, 2009 from 6:00 - 8:00 p.m. A celebration of his life will be held at the Orchard 7th Ward LDS chapel, 3599 South Orchard Dr., Bountiful, on Monday, September 14, 2009 at 11:00 a.m. with a viewing prior to the services from 10:00 - 10:45 a.m. Interment will be at the Lakeview Cemetery in Bountiful. Memorial Funds can be donated at any Mountain Credit Union in lieu of flowers. Online guest book at www.russonmortuary.com. Memorial Funds can be donated at Mountain America Credit Union in lieu of flowers.